When leadership asks more of you
The greater the responsibility, the more complex the challenges. Decisions affect more people, interests diverge and straightforward answers become harder to find. At the same time, it can become increasingly difficult to find someone who can think alongside you with genuine independence.
Perhaps you have stepped into a new leadership role. Perhaps a growing organisation requires a different kind of leadership. Maybe an important decision is taking more energy than you let on, collaboration within the management team is becoming difficult, or you notice that behaviours that helped you succeed in the past are now getting in your way.
Our conversations create the space to step back from the day-to-day and see more clearly what the situation actually requires of you. Together, we explore what is happening, which patterns are influencing you and which choices will help you lead with greater clarity, confidence and impact.
As an executive coach and former senior executive, I work with leaders at the moments when leadership matters most.
Where leadership gets difficult
Every leader is different. Yet the challenges leaders bring to coaching are often surprisingly familiar. Not because they lack knowledge or experience, but because leadership requires choices in situations where interests conflict, uncertainty increases and the right answer is far from obvious.
Three themes come up repeatedly in my work.
Difficult decisions
When the right choice is not obvious.
Some decisions are made not because you know the answer, but because waiting is no longer an option. The challenge arises when every option has consequences, interests diverge and no one can tell you what the right decision is.
At those moments, it is tempting to gather even more information, postpone difficult conversations or hold on to familiar solutions for too long. Yet the real question often lies somewhere else.
Together, we examine the situation, challenge assumptions and clarify what really matters. Not so that someone else makes the decision for you, but so that you can make it with greater conviction.
Typical challenges
- Strategic choices
- Difficult people decisions
- Management team dilemmas
- Navigating conflicting interests
- Setting direction in uncertainty
New role or next phase
When what made you successful is no longer enough.
Most leaders discover that a new role requires more than different responsibilities. It also requires something different from them personally.
Perhaps you have become CEO. Perhaps the organisation is growing faster than you are used to. Maybe the ownership structure, strategy or composition of the management team is changing.
The way you succeeded before may no longer be what the new situation requires.
A new phase rarely calls for working harder. It almost always calls for leading differently. Together, we explore what this next step requires of you as a leader, so you can continue to set your own direction with confidence.
Typical challenges
- Stepping into a new leadership role
- The first 100 days
- Increasing your impact without simply working harder
- Letting go and delegating
- Growing as a leader
Leadership under pressure
When experience alone is no longer enough.
Pressure rarely changes who you are. It reveals who you are.
When expectations rise, time is scarce and the stakes are high, the way you truly lead becomes visible — to others and to yourself.
Under pressure, strengths can become liabilities. Decisiveness can turn into dominance. Thoroughness can become delay. Commitment can become control.
The pressure may not disappear. But you can learn to respond to it differently. So that even when expectations are high, you stay on course, continue to think clearly and lead consciously rather than from automatic reactions.
Typical challenges
- Leading under pressure
- Dealing with resistance
- Having difficult conversations
- Staying calm through change
- Balancing people and performance
Experience from practice
CEO
Technology Company
“Berend asks the questions you too easily skip yourself. His combination of executive experience, calmness and sharp analysis helps bring complex issues back to their essence quickly. It leads to better decisions.”
Entrepreneur
Growing SME
“What I appreciated is that Berend does not immediately jump to solutions. He listens, challenges and helps you understand what is really going on. That led to insights I would not have reached on my own.”
HR Director
Financial Services
“Berend brings calm and clarity to complex issues. He listens carefully, asks incisive questions and helps distinguish what really matters from what does not. The insights are immediately applicable.”
My Approach
Calm, incisive and personal
Good executive coaching does not start with a method or model. It starts with understanding what is really going on.
Behind almost every leadership challenge lies a deeper question. A difficult decision may ultimately be about beliefs. A new role about identity. A difficult working relationship about trust. By resisting the urge to jump straight to solutions, we create the space to see more clearly what the situation actually requires of you.
My style is calm, personal and analytical. I listen carefully, ask questions that go deeper and reflect back what I see. At times challenging, always respectful. Not to turn you into a different person, but to help you make more conscious choices about how you want to lead.
As an executive coach and former senior executive, I understand the reality behind the job title. I know what it means to carry responsibility, make decisions under time pressure and lead when not all the information is available. That practical experience forms the foundation of every conversation.
Where it adds value, I use evidence-based leadership assessments, including Hogan Assessments, to provide objective insight into behaviour, motivations and development potential.
Ultimately, it is not about how I would approach the situation. It is about helping you make better choices. My aim is for you to leave every conversation with greater clarity, confidence and judgement.
Frequently Asked Questions
Below you will find answers to some of the questions I am regularly asked about executive coaching.
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1. Who is executive coaching for?
I work with CEOs, executives, entrepreneurs and senior leaders who want to reflect more deeply on their leadership, decisions and impact. Often they are stepping into a new role, leading through change or facing situations where there is no obvious right answer.
2. What kind of challenges do leaders bring to you?
The topics vary, but often involve difficult decisions, a new leadership role, pressure, team dynamics or recurring patterns that are getting in the way. Sometimes there is a very specific issue; at other times, the starting point is simply the need to step back and think more clearly.
3. What does an executive coaching engagement look like?
Most engagements consist of five conversations of around 75 minutes, usually spread over several months. We start by clarifying what you want to work on and adapt the conversations as your situation develops. A single session is also possible when you want to explore a specific question or decision.
4. Do you use a specific coaching methodology?
I do not work from one fixed methodology. The conversation and your situation come first. Depending on what is useful, I draw on different coaching approaches, leadership frameworks and my own executive experience. Where relevant, I can also use evidence-based assessments such as Hogan.
5. What makes your approach different?
I combine professional coaching with first-hand executive experience. Having worked in senior leadership and Managing Director roles myself, I understand the realities behind the questions leaders bring to coaching. My style is calm, analytical and personal: I listen carefully, challenge where needed and help you see the situation from different perspectives without telling you what to do.
6. Are our conversations confidential?
Yes. Confidentiality is fundamental to executive coaching. What we discuss stays between us. If your organisation sponsors the coaching, we agree upfront what, if anything, is shared with them. The content of our conversations remains confidential.
Let’s Connect
Perhaps you are facing an important decision. Maybe you want to grow into a new role, notice that a recurring pattern is holding you back, or simply want an independent thinking partner who understands your world.
An initial conversation is without obligation. We discuss your situation, explore what you need and see whether my way of working is a good fit for you.
Sometimes one good conversation is enough to see clearly again what the situation actually requires of you.
I would be happy to meet you.